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Why You Should Live in Maple, Willow, or Larch Hall Freshman Year at ISU
1. The convenience to central campus
2. Bus Routes
3. Seasons Dining Hall
4. East Side Store (C-Store)
5. MWL Commons
6. Lied Recreational Gym
7. Convos
- You're beautiful.
- Your skin is beautiful.
- You're not beautiful "for a dark skin girl."
- You do not need to stay out of the sun this summer.
- You do not need to be afraid to get darker this summer.
- You do not need to lighten your skin.
I know that all of this was sudden, but I am so overcome with emotions that I did not want to fester any longer. Dark skin should be embraced, yet, in society, it's not (or it goes to the other extreme by becoming a fetish). Once upon a time, I disliked my beautiful chocolate arms; I wondered why I had long, sun-kissed legs seemed less feminine because of its muscular structure; I didn't understand that my natural skin was a super long kiss from the sun. Dark skin was never considered "exotic," circa the desire of "foreign girls" a couple years ago. Everyone seemingly wanted a thick redbone. It was always team light skin versus team dark skin -- I'll leave you to figure out who naturally came out on top. Dark skin was not something to be desired.
But it's time. It's time that dark skin starts being appreciated for its innate beauty. There is no competition between skin tones; all tones have their own beauty. I need you to understand that you do not need skin lightening cream; what you need to do is hold your head up, take care of your beautiful glow, and not let society knock you down. I do not want you to shed a tear over the dark skin that God bestowed upon you. Do not let a foolish guy (or girl) let you think that you are beautiful in spite of your skin. You are beautiful because of it. I'm talking about the beautiful cocoa brown, the gorgeous honey nut, the deep, warm black.
You beautiful chocolate girls and women, embrace your skin. After all, you only have one. Do not tolerate colorism; stand up for what you believe in. Never let your head fall, gorgeous. This self-confidence has to become the norm. I do not want my heart to break for any more little girls who grow up with a distaste for their own skin.
1. Go to a hookah bar.
2. Go to an escape room.
3. Go to a BYOB or 18+ Club.
4. Have a dorm/apartment party.
1. Are you a morning person? Night owl?
2. What is your class standing [by credits]?
3. Schedule in meal breaks
4. Check Ratemyprofessor
5. Know what's required and what's optional
6. Choose days that work best for you
"Many of us subtly, reflexively change the way we express ourselves all the time. We're hos-scotching between different cultural and linguistic spaces and different parts of our own identities -- sometimes within a single interaction."
- Taking a phone call from a family member or friend at work
- Going into a predominately white community
- Talking to a boss
- Speaking with anyone in authority
- Playing with babies, puppies, or kittens
- Going abroad to a country with a different language
These are not super obvious situations that one would expect code-switching to be occurring, but it is! Now, the lingering question is why anyone would do it? There are many reasons...
1. To feel more comfortable in a situation
I would not feel comfortable speaking with a potential employer like I would with my friends. This is a typical example of code-switching; everyone does it, whether its concious or not.
2. To blend in more
As a person of color, I already stick out like a sore thumb. While I have been told that I am "the whitest black girl," that does not mean that I do not have traits and identifiers that are traditionally seen in the black community, such as slang and mannerisms. When I am around non-POC, I find myself switching how I talk about by limiting my slang usage, and my demeanor changes.
3. To explain a thought or complete a sentence
I remember when I came back from Germany, I ridiculously forgot some English words, so I tended to speak Denglish whenever I couldn't remember a word in English. There are also words in German that do not translate to or cannot be described in English.
4. To be secretive
One of my friends began to learn Italian in order to speak with her roommate in public and keep others out of the loop. I love it when people do this! My roommate and I did it sometimes because we both speak a bit of German. You can also see this when accents come out; sometimes thicker accents confuse or make understanding someone harder.
To read up more on code-switching, here are a few credible sources that I found helpful:
- Five Reasons Why People Code-Switch by Matt Thompson
- Why Do People Code-switch: A Sociolinguistic Approach by Walid Rihane
- Bilingual Language Mixing: Why Do Bilinguals Code-Switch? by Roberto R. Heredia and Jeanette Altarriba
- Code-switching: How Black to Be by R.L.G.